Posted by Jan on March 17, 2001 at 21:55:21:
In Reply to: Overcoming the loss of 2 wives. posted by Neal on March 15, 2001 at 20:13:33:
Hi Neal,
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It gives me hope and comfort. It's hard to imagine going through this twice. I do understand the blessing in it. Before my husband died after a 6 year battle with cancer I kept getting that this would be a gift. I would say "I don't want the damn gift". It's out of my hands obviously, and I'm grateful for the gift and now accept it. It's still early and I feel that I'm really just beginning to allow myself to grieve, but that's the work. I'm seeing how amazing life is and am trying to learn and experience all that I'm being given. My husband was an amazing man and I thank God every day for having had 18 years of his love. We never had childred and I live alone in the woods. I tend to isolate myself and this experience is bringing me out. So I look forward to participating more fully in life. My husbands' death opened my heart and is showing me the true meaning of life. Funny that it takes death to see life. I think it's also important to keep a sense of humor in balance of course with allowing oneself to cry. I'm grateful for this opportunity to connect with people who understand. Take care
Janice