Posted by Christy Cost on July 10, 2001 at 12:40:38:
In Reply to: In-vitro to have babies after loss of husband posted by patti on July 07, 2001 at 09:06:34:
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My husband of 7 years died March 31, 2001. He was 28, I was 27. Our son was three and a half months old. In some ways I wish I had known it was coming so that I could have harvested some sperm and my son might have a sibling. But this past 16 months have been so difficult. Think long and hard before you propell yourself into single motherhood, be sure you know what you are getting into. I never wish that I had not had my son, but I do realize how much easier it would have been if Bill had died before we had a baby. If you do decide to go the baby route, surround youself with family and friends. Establish a strong support group, and don't be afraid to ask for help. If not for my family and my husbands family, I surely would have given up before now. I was looking forward to being a stay at home mommy to our son, now I work to provide health insurance to my son and myself, and my son is in day care all day. It was easy for your husband to 'decide', with you, that you would have your children if he didn't live, but he's not the one who has to bust ass now to take care of them. If youre financially independent, I say go for it. If not, think of yourself and your future children. My son is the only joy I have left, but single motherhood is still very, very hard.