Posted by craig on September 16, 2001 at 22:38:36:
In Reply to: loss of a husband posted by Dreama on December 22, 2000 at 17:53:08:
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I have two things for you to consider.
The first is from Viktor Frankl's book "Man's Search for Meaning". Frankl was a Auschwitz survivor and a professor of psychiatry. I vividly remember one passage from the book where Frankl was in thearpy with a elderly man who had lost his wife three years before. The man was unable to get over his loss. After many sessions, Frankl finally asked him how hard would it have been on his wife had he died first. The man responded that he imagined it would be very hard on her too. Then Dr Frankl asked the man if he was not sparing his wife that pain by him surviving her.
The second is a book I think very highly of: "Ouch! Life can hurt, But Healing Is Your Choice"
(at http://www.geocities.com/ouch_book/index.html). Ouch! is a pragmatic approach to living thru a crisis and has practical advice on dealing with the issues. Please give it a look.
-craig