Posted by Deb on October 26, 2002 at 17:36:05:
Ive been a widow now a little over a year. Im a Christian in the real sense of the word. Ive always tried to help others,keep Christ as my example, serve my church when I can and be a positive example for my kids and others. Well since Ive become a widow I have recieved very little help from friends, family and church folks. When he first died alot of people said to ask for help if I needed it etc. Well when I started to (very briefly and few times) no one has time or they say they will and dont or dont bother to call me back etc. I have tried to go to the elders and each person individually and explain my hurt but it goes on deaf ears. I havent been able to go to my church lately, its just to hypacritical to me. My kids are experiencing this directly and thru observation. I dont want to be bitter or have others turn from Christ and God because of this. It is a really bad witness in my mind. I talked to my pastor earlier in the year hoping to organize some kind of widows " helps group" but the very group Id have to work with is the same people who have been clueless with me. I wouldnt want to expose other widows to this heart ache. SO what would you do AND how do you recieve help for your needs? I have MS and the Lord has really strengthened me alot for all this but I am having some relapses. Thankyou for any help or info. Deb ps Im 52 was married almost 30yrs.